The Multiverse of Choice: Beginning with the End in Mind

We are often told to “begin with the end in mind.” Usually, this is framed as a morbid exercise in legacy… like fast-forwarding to your funeral to imagine what your obituary might say. Do you want to be remembered as the person who was perpetually tethered to a screen, or as the spouse, parent, and friend who was truly present?

I’ve realized that this perspective isn’t just about legacy; it helps with everyday choices that shape our lives. When I feel lazy, thinking about the end goal pushes me to pick a walk instead of hitting the couch or play a game with my son instead of scrolling through my phone.

In my journey, I’ve realized that our “happily ever after” is not just a destination; it is a frequency we must tune into to transmute negative emotions into positive ones. When I work on this for myself, I think of the book Dark Matter. When the protagonist, Jason Dessen, is traversing the multiverse inside “the box,” he discovers a terrifying truth: the door he opens is determined by the emotion he is feeling.

When he is lost in chaos and fear, he steps into worlds of destruction. To find his way home, he has to learn to feel the universe he wants to inhabit before he ever turns the handle. He journals every detail of the world he desires that he can think of including the feelings of being with his wife and son. He had to be specific to find his ending.

In a similar fashion, I have realized that to find my future, I must be as specific as possible. At this moment, my “perfect picture” looks like this:

• A Marriage of Truth and Love: I live in a marriage that goes beyond what I ever dreamed possible. It’s a place of complete honesty where our needs not only get met but fit together perfectly. I’ve let go of the heavy weight of body shame, embracing a strong attraction to my husband and a newfound confidence in our bedroom. We truly see each other, and in that connection, we feel free.
• Sovereign Parenting: I build a close relationship with my sons, something I once only dreamed of. I see them as unique individuals, each with their own paths to follow and lives to create. I am here for them emotionally, financially, and physically, offering a solid foundation of trust. They open up to me not because they have to, but because they truly want to share their lives, as we enjoy a journey together filled with respect for one another.
• Abundance without Consumerism: I embody financial security, having left behind the worries of the past and embraced a life of true abundance that brings me joy in sharing it. I love to create memorable experiences for others like treating strangers to meals and surprising loved ones with vacations. We live in our dream home and explore the world in cozy comfort: lounging in first-class, enjoying the warmth of heated seats, and relishing delicious food. I savor the best things life has to offer without getting caught up in mindless consumerism; I appreciate luxury but I’m not controlled by it.
• Spiritual Leadership: I’m a spiritual leader who’s known not for my fame, but for the real wisdom I’ve gained along the way. Think of me as a lighthouse for anyone trying to find their way through the ups and downs of awakening. In this role, I’ve learned to shrug off the weight of judgment from others. I’m just being me, treating my little mistakes as short “human glitches”—a quick whoops, a friendly smile, and a step forward with ease.
• A Circle of Kindred Souls: I’m surrounded by a great group of friends who value our friendship just as much as I do. As I grow, I bring them along with me. I share my blessings and help them with their own paths, making sure my journey towards the light feels connected and fulfilling.
• Honoring the Human Vessel: I have a joyful relationship with food, celebrating it as the fuel for my body while feeling confident in my skin, no matter its size. I understand that being human means living in a body that changes over time. I’m grateful for this physical form because it allows me to experience life fully. It takes courage to embrace this human experience; I choose to feed my body well and, most importantly, to feel completely free in it.
• Becoming the Frequency of Peace: I am a vibrant expression of love, light, peace, and kindness. My presence acts as a spark, inspiring others to find their inner light. I embrace my role in the collective awakening, wandering through life with no judgment and an endless well of compassion. I remind myself that people grow, that their intentions often stem from their own survival stories, and that my goal is to nurture the goodwill that supports a fresh way of living.

Sometimes these desires feel contradictory. I wonder if I can truly “have it all” until I remember that the universe is infinite. Every moment of existence is a moment of manifesting my future.

However, the “be-coming” is often messy. Recently, while sitting at a membership-based farm that offers free coffee, a barista called me out for coming back for a third cup. A massive wave of embarrassment and shame hit me. I over-explained myself to compensate, but deep down, I realized the sting came from a realization: I wasn’t living in the abundance I claimed to want. In that moment, I had stepped back into the ‘Before’…. the version of me that was afraid there wouldn’t be enough if I didn’t grab it now. I was “taking advantage.”

I spun on that shame for a while. My instinct was to hide until I was “fully integrated” before facing the world again. But that isn’t how we build the people we want to be. The “Future Kristin” I am building needs these human moments. I have to experience the friction of embarrassment now to develop the callouses of confidence later. My brain processes these “hards” with an intensity that others might not understand, but that unique friction is exactly what generates the light I’m seeking.

I have realized that I am my own savior. I have navigated the “hell” of the void and the silence of the “before” specifically so I could recognize the feeling of heaven on earth when I finally found it. I was able to find gratitude for this shameful embarrassing moment by honoring this experience. By realizing that I chose this life and that experience all to bring me one step closer to the ending I have been dreaming of.

But this isn’t just my story, my luck or my unique reality; it’s yours too. You are a singular occurrence in the history of the universe. You are the only “you” that has ever been, is, or will ever be. You didn’t come here to be perfect; you came here to be conscious.

We all signed different soul contracts, and we are all chasing different versions of abundance. But the multiverse of your life is waiting for you to decide which version of yourself is turning the handle.

So, take a breath. Feel the world you want to inhabit. Notice the weight of the door in your hand. And then, with all the courage of a soul that chose to be human: Open it.